Adventure Fatherhood

In honor of Father’s Day, ONE Dad and marriage and family therapist Mark Howerton put together a special Spotify playlist just for ONE of songs that inspire him as a father.  

“The proper function of a man is to live, not to exist. I shall not waste my days trying to prolong them. I shall use my time.” – Jack London

I stumbled across this quote the other day by the great author, Jack London, and I cannot get it out of my head. I loved reading his books as a kid; fantasizing about adventurers he describes in the great North . . . dog sledging, gold mining, fighting for survival.

Truly being a tough guy.

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Photo Caption: Mark with his wife Kristen and four children: Kembe, Karis, Jafta and India.

Today, I am a husband, an active dad of four young kids, and guy who works hard in a private practice as a psychotherapist. My life is busy and full. However, in the business, it is easy to allow the obligations of my life lull me into mere existence. To simply go through the motions of being alive.

I’ve been thinking about London’s quote and how to apply it to my life. I don’t believe it’s suggesting that I close up my practice, pack up my family and get on a dog sledge to the North Pole. Rather, I think It’s a forceful reminder that I want to live my life with great intentionality. It’s a motivator to avoid letting life just happen around me. It’s a call to embrace the great challenge of learning to see the adventures within my life as it is.

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Of course, there’s a part of me that want to experience more adventure. To seek out and embrace challenges, opportunities, and new experiences. (To my wife’s chagrin I was actually looking at motorcycles online last week.) I can look for those types of adventures in nature or in travel, but also find them in my work, in my marriage, and in fostering the tender minds and hearts of my kids. While adventure I might look differently in five or ten years, I’m convinced I want to live every chapter of my life with intentionality, fighting the temptation to merely exist.

This Father’s Day weekend I want to use my time embracing the adventure of Fatherhood.

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Songs that inspire Mark to be a better parent. Listen on Spotify:

Mark and his family live in Orange County, CA. He and his wife Kristen have been married for 15 years and have four beautiful children. You can find him at www.markhowerton.com or @markhowerton on Twitter. Photos in this post are courtesy of Mark’s wife Kristen Howerton (www.rageagainsttheminivan.com).